For some people dating is easy, whilst for others it is hard for them to commit. All ye serial daters, this is not a post for you -_- please stay single let us find people to date. In this new year, you may feel like dating is part of growth for you, on your to do list or honestly maybe you are just nearing “The Age” and your mum keeps suggesting aso ebi colours. So here are a few ways we think you can leave team single in 2016.
- REVAMP YOURSELF
Maybe your dreadlocks isn’t really doing it for you or your make up is doing you more harm than good. Before anyone sees the beauty “within” they need to be attracted to the exterior. Also, a makeover is a good way to boost your self esteem, which can help you when approaching a potential bae. So a new haircut could be a good thing, new clothes maybe or just different styling. If you are not comfortable with your body or you are on the overweight side, it might be a good time to board the fitfam train.
2. BRING THE WALL DOWN
You sometimes don’t even realise you have a wall around you. Well news flash, ain’t nobody got time for wall climbing. You may have been heart broken in the past or just don’t love yourself and so you find it difficult to accept love and allow people close to you. It is time to get over that, not everyone has the time to deal with all that baggage…..so whilst jogging on the Lekki/Ikoyi bridge abeg just drop that baggage in the water.
3. BE REALISTIC
Guys: Before I fit even follow babe talk, that her nyash must be bigger than Nicki’s, boobs like Cossie’s and a waist like Kim and she must be a size 8 o. I can’t take you serious if your body isn’t like this.
Girls: He must be 6ft at least, fine with rock carved abs,must drive a range rover, work in shell, have his own business and must have my time.
Ok it is time to be realistic, no one is perfect, we all have flaws. If you won’t date him because he says “H”egg or you won’t date her because she doesn’t get at least 500 likes on instagram then you would most likely be single forever.
4. GO OUT ALONE
Guys are more likely to approach you when you are alone. No one wants to be eaten raw by your friends just because they want your number. Also guys, girls are a bit intimidated when you holla when you are with a group of “man dem”. So go out alone or with one friend so you are more approachable. Also when you are with friends you may be moved to turn the guy down if he isn’t exactly the 10 that is “Worthy” of your time.
Networking isn’t only for work! Advertise! Advertise! Advertise! Let your friends know you are single and searching, there is no shame in that. Your friends may know someone who is also searching, or someone from their work place. Sometimes people think you can’t be single so it is always a good thing to put it out there.
6. SOCIAL MEDIA
It makes no sense for you to have your social media pages on private when you are searching (Again advertise). Instagram is booming right now, post more pictures and reply your DMS.
7. SAVE YOUR CRAZY
Finally you meet a potential partner, don’t scare him/her away with your crazy! Calm down, let them get to know you well enough first, see the positives before you hit them with all that crazy. Asking him why he liked that picture a minute ago is an example of your crazy
8. GIVE UP
Dating isn’t for everyone to be honest, sometimes you talk to people and just realise how much you like your space and how you might prefer cats to people. Or you just can’t handle the stress and drama that come with them.2017 is around the corner don’t worry you can try again then.
Have any other tips on how to leave team single this year? share with us